Danger of christians dating nonchristians
Either way, a marriage cannot thrive where a couple has subjects that remain off-limits, where relational intimacy can exist only if certain subjects never come up.Learn to talk to your future spouse about anything and everything and be concerned if subjects remain off-bounds. A very serious warning sign within a dating relationship is an increase in physical intimacy—intimacy that is appropriate only within marriage.Not every Christian makes a fuss over Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.(Of course my grandkids preferred their grandfather, because HE knew that Christmas and Easter were meant to be exciting times, with visits to Santa Claus, and gifts from Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.) Will you agree on, or argue about, things like Christmas cards (The Babe in the Manger or Santa Claus), playing Bingo, buying Lotto tickets, watching R-rated shows on the TV, etc.?
There is nothing more important to a dating relationship than communication, so take time to talk about everything. We could go so far as to say that the two essential qualities for a spouse are a shared Christian faith and an ability to resolve conflict in God’s way through God’s Word. “The difference between a good marriage and a bad marriage is not necessarily that in the former there is little to no conflict and in the latter there is much conflict.Marriage is the second most important decision anyone ever makes. This matter is so vital that I urge you before reading further to bookmark this webpage and go straight to The Ultimate Love Affair. As we have seen, many well-meaning, good-living church members are deluded about their own personal standing with God. Who would have thought that these clean living, respectable people would end up cruelly treating Christians? Any conversion is suspect whenever love for a woman is a factor.) If he does not change prior to marriage, he is most unlikely to do so later. So that two can be joined together to work in harmony.Having decided we are going to spend Eternity with Jesus, we need to be VERY selective about with whom we choose to share our earthly life. In Genesis God Himself said: Your own wish list may include factors such as tall, good-looking, own home and car, secure job, similar cultural background, non-drinker/smoker/gambler, kind to animals, sense of humor etc. Because they were christened or confirmed at a certain age, or walked down the aisle and signed a decision card, that doesnt necessarily mean that they have understood their need to repent of their own sin and accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. So why does God feel so strongly about this matter? Many Christian women who think about getting married to someone who doesnt have a place for Jesus in their lives, cant see the harm, if the man they love is morally upright. But I ended up paying a heavy price in personal loneliness, marital discord, and, worst of all, disruption to my own fellowship with God. For nearly forty years I was married to a person who made no place for God in his life, yet was a good-living person, and an upright citizen. As they say, love is blind, but marriage is an eye-opener.Of course the cultural expectation is that a couple will quickly ramp up the physical component of their relationship until they are sure they are sexually compatible.Only then will they be convinced that they can have a healthy marriage.
Lou Priolo’s books have often been helpful to me and this has proven the case once more with a little booklet he’s written on this very subject.